Do we all realize who we are actually? Just a human? Are you sure? Do you know who built the wonders of the world? The Pyramids in Egypt? Who constructed a plane? Who created A-bomb? We are accustomed to the term “human” so much that mostly it doesn`t mean the whole might a person owns. There are not-incapable people, but indifferent ones, who don`t care about their lives. It`s safe to be in our comfort zones. However, not to attempt or act doesn`t mean not to fail.
Coming to this world and not using your power to create is the same as having wings but not flying. Once my brother visited me. The inscribed-on-his-T-shirt got my attention. Moreover, I came across that quote at the very period of writing this chapter: It said, “Tolerance is another word for indifference”. Unfortunately, the manufacturer of T-shirt seemed to forget to write the author of the aforementioned brilliant words. I suppose, despite a huge number of the same or analogous feature, tolerance and indifference may slightly differ. Meaning, it`s your will that does matter. When you have to tolerate something, your wishes and reality contradict to each other, but when you don`t care about something, reality takes control over your will and you`ll obey it.
The most distracting side of indifference is that it`ll kill your feelings. Let me retell my own story. I was born in a very common family. My parents were religious people. Most of all my mother didn`t get exhausted to repeat: “Young girls shouldn`t fall in love with boys. It`s dangerous. Everyone will point at such “nasty” light-minded girls and laugh at them. Girls, who date with boys, are not better than prostitutes”. I hate these words most of all. It seems like she forbade me to love someone.
I was too young and naïve to analyze her words. I followed her words. Those words were always playing in my mind. I abstained myself from talking or being acquainted with boys at all. It lasted twenty years. Meanwhile I lost my dream love. I simply let it slip out of my hands. Can you imagine it? I loved him. We both studied at University together. He was the dream of any kinds of ideal girls. It has been years. However, on recalling him the time when our eyes met my heart beats even faster. I was obeying my mother. I locked any of experiences of communicating with boys. I was afraid to say or do something stupid and he would laugh at me. I always tried to avoid him. In the end, one year later he met a young pretty girl. I was so unhappy.
Only reading marvelous books on self-improving and mind-power and other psychological books I managed to see the reality: who was right? Who tried to manipulate, etc.? The truth was so incredible. Treat with the people the way you want to be treated. That abovementioned quote may express my conclusion out of life lessons I made having read a mountain of bestsellers. Pay more careful attention to the quote, you can apply it in any aspects of life, related to the communication with people. If you want to be loved, love yourself first. If you want to get, give first! If you wish to be trusted, trust yourself first. If you desire to have more friends, be a friend yourself. If your dream is to be inspired, inspire others first. I`m sure you may easily continue the list of the examples.
My life experience convinced me that indifference is the murder of love. In addition, love is that special power that unites or holds the whole world. We love money, or comfort and ease it may give. Therefore, we work. As for me, love can become the second bright side of our enemies, as there is no place for anger, indifference, fear, laziness, delay I love. To say more briefly if you want to beat all of your enemies like indifference you must learn to love what how you do, with whom you live and of course, what you want to get in future. Here are some tips to get the responsibility for your life on yourself.
Optimism
If you`ve already bought and red any of my books on positive thinking you may understand that optimism is a door to your emotional freedom. When you feel indifferent you seem like hypnotized to think that it`s the best way anyway, but it will wake you up from that boring dream and activate the potential hidden inside of you.
I have my own way to deal with pessimism and indifference. The technique is called “Oxymoron (Ok with humor)”. It was created in Russia. Oxymoron, is based on turning obstacles into funny stuff and laugh at them. I can`t go on without any examples. Imagine that you wanted to apply for a job.
However, seeing too many applicants you were frightened or disappointed and gave up. Your fear and disappointment would make you indifferent and you might forget about your dream job at all. Let`s look through the case from the other point of view. Your “inner” voice and invisible thoughts mad you return without even handing in your resume or attempting while you could persist if they (your thoughts) were people. If you knew and used Oxymoron, you could beat every one even if there were some millions of applicants for the job. So, what would an Oxymoron-lite do in this situation?
For instance, if I were in your place in such a circumstances I would change them the way I wished. I would take a remote controller and name it the transformer, and press the on button saying: “Turn to the channel when I have already been accepted to the job”. I would make up a rhyme and sing:
“I`m accepted
Others have gone!
I`m accepted,
Well done!”
Don`t haste to criticize my rhyme since I am not going to compose a masterpiece. Yes! This isn`t worth calling a rhyme. This is the point. The rhyme doesn`t need to be perfect, but it should raise your mood and inspire. Applying Oxymoron you`ll feel yourself a magician. Who is able to do anything he or she wants. Besides, at least you`ll be in a pleasant mood. Therefore, I highly recommend you to use Oxymoron more often.
Enthusiasm
I can see and feel my dear reader that you had, have or will have some situations connected with passion and enthusiasm. So, you know what feeling enthusiastic seems like. Your enthusiasm will lead you forward. You don`t care about any kinds of obstacles or anticipation of failure while enthusiasm fills your mind and heart. If you have any doubts about my words, I advise you to consider the geniuses who have lived up to now. It doesn`t need to be an about-hundred-year-old scientist, but a person who builds his or her life with enthusiasm.
We can`t produce enthusiasm on purpose, but we have a lot of chances to do what makes you enthusiastic. Mostly, it`s our mission in this life. For instance, composing makes me enjoy more than anything does. I feel as if I were a creator. Some of my interests fade away or die, because they are just interests. However, writing is something more than interest for me. Think about what you have just read once more and decide what you like most of all. If this is a person or a thing, then find them. If this is the event, you want to happen, a job, be engaged in it. As Selena Gomez said: “Live like there is no tomorrow!”
Be realistic! At first sight, it seems like becoming realistic has nothing to do with giving up an indifferent attitude. Actually, indifference is the final-result of unrealistic plans. Let me give you an example. You want to earn $ 1000 000 when you have no little piece of idea where and when or how. If you set earning $ 1 000 000 as your goal without believing it. Then, rest assured you`ll fail. Because, time passes and you have no results. The lack of results ends in frustration and disappointment, disappointment causes indifference. If you can foresee how much time you`ll need to earn this sum of money you`ll act without any hesitation. By the way, there exist some billions of means or ideas to make money as much as you wish.